One of my greatest struggles in life is knowing when to let go of relationships. I look for the best in people and hold onto that image of them – even after they show me there’s another side I’ve ignored.

I hear words that are spoken but reduce their importance based on actions. I’d never allow a man to say that he loves me while putting his hands on me because the words don’t mirror the abuse.

Things get blurry for me when I hear the words I don’t care for you like that but I care for you. My life rationale is to base situations on actions so to be treated well seems to mute what was said. I’ll justify holding on because we’re good together – or stay committed because it feels right – mute to the reality that a relationship where feelings aren’t mutual can be just as toxic as one that is abusive.

While I’ll never allow a man to put his hands on me there’s reality in the fact that I’ve abused myself by holding on too long, mentally tormenting myself because the here and now feels right.

In the past whenever a relationship failed I’d review each season of it trying to pinpoint where I failed. It occurred to me one day that it’s easier to pour my best into the atmosphere, making it easier to walk away from a failed relationship (situation) without regret. Read that again, and ask yourself WHY HAVE I ASSUMED THAT I FAILED?

I’m beginning to think that I may be an EVE without an Adam, and if that’s God’s plan for my life I have no choice but to accept it – but being knowledgeable about the story of Sarah allows me to remain hopeful! (minus the pregnancy portion of the story).

I’ve referenced male – female relationships up to this point but there’s also the story of Cain and Abel, yea there’s family relationships that you have to let go of as well.

There’s a lot of people struggling with letting go for one reason or another. The thing of one person is different than mine but what’s common is we’ve convinced ourselves that our life wouldn’t be as enjoyable without it – oh but it can and will!

Take a day and go without whatever that thing is, work through the struggles – fight through the urge. If you give in don’t lament just try again the next day. As long as there is breath within your lungs you can overcome, and should try to.